I passed my words through deepseek, this is what it translated to:
我和女友住在俄亥俄州的斯普林菲尔德——一个被玉米田包围的安静小镇。我每天通勤近一小时到哥伦布市，全职担任数据分析师。这是我的第一份工作，目前正朝着晋升数据工程师的方向努力。公司也在为我申请绿卡，2024年12月已提交PWD（现行工资确定），仍在等待结果，预计I-140（职业移民申请）最快2026年底获批。
当初选择在斯普林菲尔德买房，是因女友本应在代顿市工作。这里曾是两人生活的“中点”。我们为这栋房子倾注了无数心血：筑篱笆、打理花园、装饰房间……然而，她的代顿工作机会突然被取消。
经历数月求职后，她终于在加州圣何塞找到一份理想工作，一周后就要入职。我们为她骄傲——应届生开启职业生涯至关重要。但这也意味着，我们将开始异地。
此刻心碎不已。我们深爱这个家，这里承载着共同打造的生活。如今她即将离开，而我站在人生的十字路口：
该留在俄亥俄州，继续争取晋升和绿卡？
还是放弃一切，去圣何塞重新开始，只为和她相伴？
我深知异地恋的艰难，即便感情再坚定。
我不想失去她，却也不愿轻易抛弃事业与移民进程的积累。
求助经历相似的朋友：
如何平衡爱情、职业与人生规划？ 若你曾面临绿卡申请与异地抉择，你的故事或许能点亮我的迷惘。
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背景补充：
- 绿卡流程已启动，更换雇主需重新走PERM流程（耗时数年）
- 数据工程师在圣何塞机会更多，但当前经济环境下求职风险未知
- 房子承载情感价值，但出售或出租需面对现实决策
期待你们的真诚建议。
My girlfriend and I live in Springfield, Ohio—a quiet town surrounded by cornfields. I commute nearly an hour each way to Columbus, where I work full-time in the office as a data analyst. It’s my first job, and I’m on track for a promotion to a data engineer. My company is also sponsoring my green card. The PWD was submitted in December 2024, yet still waiting for a decision. Th I’m expecting an approved I-140 by the end of 2026.
We bought a house in Springfield because she was supposed to start a job in Dayton. It was a midpoint for both of us, and we poured so much time and love into the place—building fences, landscaping, decorating. Then, unexpectedly, her job offer in Dayton was withdrawn.
After months of job hunting, she finally landed a great opportunity in San Jose, California. Her start date is just a week away. We’re both proud of her and know how important it is for a new grad to kick off her career strong. But it also means we’ll be long-distance.
We’re heartbroken. We love this house. We built a life here. But now she’s leaving, and I’m left wondering what comes next.
Should I stay in Ohio, continue working toward my promotion and green card? Or should I give that up and look for something in San Jose to be with her? I know how hard long distance can be, even for a strong relationship.
I don’t want to lose her. But I also don’t want to throw away the progress I’ve made in my career and immigration journey.
Would love to hear from anyone who’s faced something similar.
How do you balance love, career, and long-term plans?
要你两都没绿，还是先异地恋啊。要是女方有卡/公民，无脑婚绿
