频繁换女友是一种什么样的体验?爽吗?快乐吗?

我有一个朋友,不是,我大多数朋友还都挺长情的,一段恋爱至少谈三年。但也有一些朋友,以美本居多,换女朋友非常频繁,感觉一年至少换三个。其中有一位在西部某大城市还不错的公立读undergrad的富二代,小小年纪23岁已经谈过不下20个女友了 :guile: 你说他海王吧,可他从来就是一对一谈,没有多偶,而且经常会在pyq秀恩爱。你说他渣男吧,貌似每一段都谈得特认真,分手还要发pyq伤心好多天。可就是没过几天,又有了新女友,几乎不存在空窗期……

讲真我还挺羡慕的,想必你们也是吧 :clown_face: 我hin想知道他们的动机,频繁换女友是一种什么样的体验,是不是会充满征服异性的成就感,比一直谈同一个女友要更爽和快乐得多吗?

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Nothing new. Probably a lyrical womanizer.

Men who pursue a multitude of women fit neatly into two categories. Some seek their own subjective and unchanging dream of a woman in all women. Others are prompted by a desire to possess the endless variety of the objective female world.

The obsession of the former is lyrical: what they seek in women is themselves, their ideal, and since an ideal is by definition something that can never be found, they are disappointed again and again. The disappointment that propels them from woman to woman gives their inconstancy a kind of romantic excuse, so that many sentimental women are touched by their unbridled philandering.

The obsession of the latter is epic, and women see nothing the least bit touching in it: the man projects no subjective ideal on women, and since everything interests him, nothing can disappoint him. This inability to be disappointed has something scandalous about it. The obsession of the epic womanizer strikes people as lacking in redemption (redemption by disappointment).

Because the lyrical womanizer always runs after the same type of woman, we even fail to notice when he exchanges one mistress for another. His friends perpetually cause misunderstandings by mixing up his lovers and calling them by the same name.

In pursuit of knowledge, epic womanizers (and of course Tomas belonged in their ranks) turn away from conventional feminine beauty, of which they quickly tire, and inevitably end up as curiosity collectors. They are aware of this and a little ashamed of it, and to avoid causing their friends embarrassment, they refrain from appearing in public with their mistresses.

Milan KunderaWikipedia: Milan Kundera

— The Unbearable Lightness of Being, p. 210

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这个问题米兰·昆德拉回答得不错。

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资质愚钝无法判断是否为合适伴侣之前就先被吸引 ,愿意尝试勇敢爱也愿意在关系无法再继续时而放弃,放弃后恢复也快。
20几岁不是本来就该这样吗…

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看你喜欢什么样的生活。频繁换就刺激,男性会有面子(从人性的角度)。体验不同人,不同性格带来的新鲜感。感情会渐渐极度泛滥导致没办法深情对待一个人。
挺消耗精历,体力,脑力。来自于一位曾深度接触过100位女性的好友的分享。 :yaoming:

总结:这个题目太主观,ymmv

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特别容易得病。 :yaoming:不一定说明对方或者你身上有病。dddd。体质不同,交换的过于频繁就很容易得。

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:clown_face:

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我当然不是指数字,你朋友这数字不是常态,数字过高了。

愚钝的人从心碎和眼泪里学习,然而这辈子需要心碎的次数我觉得必须设定个上限。不然会失去好好谈恋爱的能力

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py可以频繁换 对象不行

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我只想知道有女友是一种什么样的体验……

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我也觉得是,要是每次真动情然后被伤害,我觉得1)感情要麻木了 2)会怀疑自己还有没有去爱的能力

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可以去问问台湾的李宗瑞,爽吗?快乐吗? :doge:

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感觉这个名字好久了,是迷奸那个么

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:yaoming:
根本就没感情啊哥们儿

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要不停的尝试,才会知道自己真正需要什么样子的异性。这个东西不是凭空想象出来的,不是靠看书和影视作品就知道的,需要大量的实践。

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签哥呢 有人呼叫你 :yaoming:
Sorry 签哥这会在改造呢 :troll:

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本版只有三股势力(请各自对号入座):

  • 琐男
  • hentai
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LZ觉得谁能回答得了你的问题? :troll:

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可以看看我的解放日志,其中有个配角就是这种人,只是需要恋爱来使自己保持活力,跟我本科的一个好友很像。

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谁敢与我一战 :troll:

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或许 @BigBrother

TS和炼铜谁更hentai ?
  • TS
  • 炼铜

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